Thursday, November 29, 2012

Why No One Can Compete With You. Ever.


It’s happening. I’m starting to do that end of the year reflection thing. You’re doing it too, I just know it. How are you feeling about your journey through 2012?

Being hard on myself was so 2010 and 2011, so I happy to say that I’m not going to overanalyze what I accomplished and what I didn’t for 2012. However, it’s never a bad time to acknowledge an area where you’ve grown, and how that growth has enriched the quality of your life.  

As such, I just have to tell you what a GREAT year I had professionally. If you can’t tell, I’m proud of myself. I feel like this year, I stopped playing small at work, I put my big girl panties on, and I took on more responsibility and leadership than I ever have before. And low and behold, it was acknowledged and rewarded.

Ironically, I’ve never ever wanted to leave my job more than I do now. Maybe because I proved to myself that my true value proposition is not tied to a specific company or job. I’ve worked at the same company since I graduated from college so it’s no wonder that I associate any security or success that I’ve had with that company.

But I’ve learned that my true value comes from just doing what I know how to do. I’m not talking about the skills and accomplishments that go on my resume. I mean, anyone could do my job from a tactical standpoint. I could quit tomorrow and business would keep on keeping on -- they’d fill my position, and I’d just be someone that they used to know.  However, Maya Angelou said, ”People will forget what you said. People will forget what you did. But people will never forget how you made them feel.”

And this, I believe, is my strength -- how I make people feel and the energy that I bring into a group. It's more impactful than my technical knowledge, my educational background or anything else that can be taught. So, when I doubt if I’ll be successful at another company or in other endeavors, I need only remind myself that all I had to do in order to have the most successful year of my career was to fully embrace who I am and what I bring to the table. The solution to doubt is always to be true to yourself.

Authenticity. It’s like our own built-in guarantee, but we don’t realize it. It guarantees that we are always on the right track as long as we are being honest with ourselves and with the world about who we are and who we are not. This psychologist guy named Carl Rogers once said, “What you are is good enough if you would only be it openly.”

This year, I really proved this to myself that who I am is enough. What about you? Were there any lessons that really stood out for you?



Cecilia said...

You're so amazing...every post you write opens my eyes and lifts me up.

I really learned to be grateful this year...I mean, truly, truly grateful. I learned to notice what I have instead of what I don't have, which I think was my modus operandi in years past. Ironically, it was because I broke my leg this year, which made me learn to appreciate something as basic as mobility and freedom. And before that one of my colleagues died suddenly at 34. Too many things happened this year, all seemingly tragic, but I came out the winner in the end, because I learned.

I'm glad to know that you, too, learned something life changing this year.

Anonymous said...

I can sincerely say I am a better person. I left all d baggages behind and I decieded to be more open to d posibility of finding me. I told myself I could accomplish anything and here I am, standing strong and loving myself more. Thank you for ur thoughtful words and your art they helped a lot.

GG Renee said...

Hi Cecilia!! Thanks so much for the kind words!! I think you're amazing too. When I read about your accident, I remember thinking how much I really take my mobility and my health for granted. At home, I like to do things a certain way and it would be so hard to let my S.O. run the show. It would be hard for me to just sit and heal and be. I can tell you learned a lot from that. And your coworker! That must have been so devastating. When those things happen it truly smacks you in the face with how fragile life is and how petty we all can be sometimes. Death forces us to appreciate life in the most fundamental way. Thanks so much for sharing with us! I learn from hearing what you go through too.

GG Renee said...

I love this! The baggage has to go, right?! At some point you have to just make your mind uo to let it all go and move forward. I'm excited for you!

Jessica Faye Hinton said...

This is such an empowering post! I love your new conclusions. What you have, the ability to make people feel better, is a gift. I know that whatever you decide to do, you'll do a great job!

haulsandall said...

This is literally what I needed to read today...THANK YOU!!

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