Easy Street

Is there really such a thing as Easy Street? Does anyone truly have it easy in this life? My answer is no. Regardless of our perception, everyone has their cross to bear. And if you ask me, I say that our crosses are the things that push us towards our purpose in life and help us discover what our imprint will be on the world. When we deny that struggle is natural for every human life, we feel left out and unfavored. The following excerpt is from Alittlebetter.net (Read full post here). I think he says it well. The truth is that in assuming life can come in "easy" we do three very negative things: We create a false hope that some day we are going to just make it, and that things will be so easy. We can begin to envy those who have an “easy” life. We get the idea that there is always an...

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Projecting Your Feelings

Isn't it interesting how whatever you're feeling on the inside is duplicated in the world outside yourself? Have you ever noticed that when you're very sad, beating yourself up and feeling guilty, that you often feel that others are beating you up and blaming you as well? Have you noticed that when you're disappointed in yourself, you feel anxious that everyone is disappointed in you too? That anxiety is called projection and it is a mirage. It's your bruised ego being unwilling to take ownership over your feelings, so it's projecting them onto other people so that you can safely play the role of the tortured victim in the drama of your life. But...

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Simple One Liners to Live By

Love yourself.Without challenge, adventure is impossible.The wiser the soul, the greater the simplicity.All pain is self-inflicted.Step #1 for changing yourself is falling in love with who you already are.That which curses you today, will bless you tomorrow.For those who don't understand themselves, it's impossible that they would understand you.My favorite:Be the spark, especially when it's dark.~quotes courtesy of www.tut.comHave a wonderful weeke...

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More Gratitude ~ What I Like About Me

In keeping with the gratitude theme, I thought it would be timely to share a repost from The Write Curl Diary that's all about gratitude and appreciating how organically perfect we are in the midst of our diverse journeys and experiences. We always make lists of ways we want to improve ourselves and bad habits we want to give up. When's the last time you made a list of all the things you like about yourself??? Sometimes we seek compliments or validation from others instead of just giving it to ourselves. I know I'm made of special stuff, and I don't need to sit around and wait for anyone to tell me that. A few things I like about me: 1. I smile all the time. I smile because it makes me feel good and it makes others feel good. I smile so much that people automatically think something is...

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Qhemet Biologics Sale

Heads up to all my fellow natural and transitioning chicas: the Qhemet Biologics 12-hour spring sale will take place on Friday May 7th! If you’re familiar with this site, you’ll know they are the purveyors of the wonderfully moisturizing Amla & Olive Heavy Cream. It was recommended to me by a friend, and I have found this to be the best product for keeping my summer curls moisturized all day long--even in the Maryland humidity. Another favorite is the Honeybush Tea Soft Gel, which helps flatten edges for pulled back or pulled up styles without being too heavy or flaking. It is water-based, so it’s gentle on your hair and it smells divine....

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Gratitude and Expectancy

“When you talk about "what is" or "what was," even if you're just explaining to a friendly ear, you project more of the same into the future. If you ask more than you give thanks, you'll believe less in your own power. And if you insist that it's hard and that you're lonely, you'll find that it is, and you are.Yet, always you can choose to focus on what's good.” This quote, received from a good friend, was an excellent reminder for me. I’ve been unhappy in one particular area of my life for quite some time now, and recently I have had to give myself constant reminders to be grateful in spite of what I view as a less than ideal situation. What...

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