Wednesday, March 30, 2011

Loving Reminders

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Sometimes we can be self-deprecating, perceiving ourselves as "less than", and zeroing in on our perceived faults, shortcomings and weaknesses. In those moments, it helps to have a support system--a group of cheerleaders--reminding us to think positively about ourselves.

I keep a list of "loving reminders" for this purpose. This list consists of what I like to call "sweet nothings" from friends and family; things that they've said or written to me that lift me up. I can review it when I'm beating myself up and need reminders of my strengths and unique gifts. You could use kudos from your boss at work or a testimonial from a client—any positive feedback that you can reference as a testament to how amazing you are.

Here are excerpts from a few of mine:


"You just exude ‘communication’ in person. I’m not just saying that because you’re my buddy, you really do. The tone of your voice, the way you speak, the way you write….you’re a great communicator..." ~YS

"…you are now in a place where you are making wiser decisions. You're more aware. That means that you will face these kinds of situations with a confidence of knowing what you want and don't want. You won't spend time in limbo or denial. You have to keep doing what you know is right for you and communicating what is NOT right for you. You're so on the right track so try not to judge or be hard on yourself for how long it takes…" ~RH

"HOW AWESOME IS YOUR SPIRIT KIM???? WHAT IN THE H**L MAKES U TICK?? I WISH I COULD CLONE YOU TO SO MANY OF MY BLACK SISTAS; INSIDE AND OUT, YOU ARE A BEAUTIFUL PERSON!" ~MC

Do you keep a source of positive energy on-hand? Perhaps a loving reminders list; or maybe affirmations for positive self-talk? What do you do to give yourself a boost when you’re down in the dumps?

2 comments:

Alexis said...

This is a great idea. So do you just collect these from emails or texts? Or do you send out something specific for them to answer about you? Kim Coles did the latter and really benefited from what people had to say.

Kim Jackson said...

Thanks! I just collect them from emails and text messages where it comes up in the context of the conversation. I didn't realize Kim Coles had done that. Sounds like a very cool opportunity to learn how you are perceived by others.

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