Monday, February 28, 2011

Who You Are vs. Who You "Ought" to Be

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When's the last time you stopped to think about how much you've grown? How far you've come? How much you've changed? It's great to have goals, hopes and dreams, but sometimes we get so caught up in how we want to be that we begin to beat ourselves up for how we are. This leads to negative self-talk and low self-esteem. There was probably a time when you were scared to do what you are doing right now. You should celebrate yourself for that.

Perfection is not only unattainable; it leaves no room for improvement. Nevermind how anyone else thinks you "ought" to be. Remember that you are already whole and worthy of all good things. With every experience, you simply grow and become more aware of it.

Today, think about ways that people criticize you (or ways that you criticize yourself).  Take this opportunity to reaffirm all that you are right now at this moment in time. I'll go first:

My grandmother tells me that I ought to go to church more often, and I often feel guilty and misunderstood after our discussions.

With all due respect to my grandma, I only go to church occasionally and I've never felt more in tuned with God than I do now. Instead of feeling guilty about not going to church, I feel blessed to have a spiritual plan that works for me.

My impatient ego tells me that I ought to be writing for a living by now and that I'm getting old.

Everyday I must remind myself to stop and smell the roses and appreciate the journey. I've been working at the same company since I graduated from college, and I never imagined that I'd be handling the complex client relationships that I handle today. I'm fortunate to have a career that challenges me intellectually and supports my family. I am more than happy to ride this out as I explore my passion for writing and where it takes me.

Sometimes I feel inadequate because of my laid-back nature and wish that I was more aggressive.

There's something to be said for having the cognizance to pick and choose your battles. Aggressive behavior is not always a display of strength. The ability to bend and not break is severly underrated. I must remember to have confidence in my peaceful nature.

Please share yours in the comments. We are always inspired by your thoughts and stories!
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Friday, February 25, 2011

Love Notes - Friday 2/25/11


Choose wisely what you give meaning to. Concentrate your energy on those things that serve you, and dismiss those things that do not.

Have a beautiful weekend, Lovies!
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Thursday, February 24, 2011

AT YOUR BEST ~ Kim

Kim and Son, January 2009

Tell us why you felt at your best in this moment:

I feel at my best whenever I’m sharing new experiences with my little guy. The innocence of a child’s excitement is contagious; they can make you feel like you’ve created magic even when you’ve done the most simple of tasks—like plan a trip. In this photo, we were on vacation at Walt Disney World with extended family. The weather was exquisite and the parks were exciting; but my favorite part of the trip was watching my son’s reactions to everything and knowing that I helped to create this memorable experience for him.


How do you define beauty:

Beauty is genuineness. There’s a light that just shines from someone who is being their authentic self. They may not be the most “traditionally” beautiful person in the room, but there is something about them that just makes people stare in appreciation.


How do you define happiness:

I can find a little bit of happy in the trees, at the bottom of a cup of green tea, in my son’s smile or in a yoga pose; in short—happiness can be found everywhere, if we let it in. Happiness is peace. Peace is knowing that you’re being guided and cared for by a force greater than you. Peace, joy and happiness: they’re our birthright.


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Wednesday, February 23, 2011

PLPT GEMS: Meet Bessie Winn-Afeku

PLPT GEMS presents
Bessie A. Winn-Afeku  aka "The Fabulous Do-Gooder"

Social Entrepreneur. Motivational Speaker. Passionate Giver.

1.  Tell us about your background and how you came to realize your passion for giving?

Honestly, I actually didn't start becoming passionate about giving until I was in college. I was taking as a requirement for one of my classes we had to complete 30 hour of community service that semester. In the process of trying to find an organization to donate my time to, I had over 50 organizations to choose from. I started to do research on the organizations and realized that there was such a great need in our society for us to give back. After college, I won the title of Miss Black Georgia USA and spent my reign traveling across the state speaking to teens about domestic violence That is when my passion for giving back began.

2.  You are the founder of the She Is Me Program™. Tell us all about the program.

The She is ME Program is a 501 (c)3 non-profit organization that aims to empower young women through workshops, seminars, the arts; exposing them to various careers, goal setting, and positive role models while developing college readiness. Young women leave our educational workshops and events educated, inspired, and empowered to reach their personal, educational, and career best.

3.  How does one even go about starting a non-profit organization?? How did you get started?

I started out by volunteering for several organizations whose mission were in line with my passion. Then I began to put together small workshops for teens myself. As time wen on I started reaching out to people who worked at organizations that I'd worked with in the past to give give me some guidance with my organization. Doing this help me tremendously. So I would recommend volunteering with an organization that you love first and also doing plenty of research.

4.  Many people have the desire to volunteer, but think they don't have the time or resources to do so. Do you have any advice or suggestions for how each of us can find our own way to give back?

There are so many different ways that we can give back. When you have found that organization that is close to your hear or, has found you rather.. you can begin by just using your talent to give. You can begin my being a mentor, and even buying fairtrade items. There is always a way that we can implement giving into our lifestyle. Although, giving money is always a major plus for organizations..so is your time. Many times it is not how much of something that you give as long as it came from your heart. Little things make a huge difference, you'd be surprised. If you think you are to small to make a difference, or what you have to offer is too little..try sleeping in a room with a mosquito.

5.  How would you describe a day in the life of Bessie Winn-Afeku?

Non.Stop. :) My work day is filled with research, reading, and connecting. When I am not conducting webinars or workshops for TSIMP, I am working on workshop material and working securing grants for our organization.

6.  PLPT is all about nurturing the synergy of inner and outer "pretty". As a former beauty queen, do you feel that the pageants you participated in emphasized the importance of this balance?

Honestly, The pageants that I have participated in did not, however I do hope to see the nurturing of inner beauty in the future.

7. How do you stay motivated and overcome doubt, fear and negative thinking?

I try to keep my mind on the "main thing"in my life and the is my purpose and my mission to give. On my worse days I try to visualize myself being where I want to be in my best day..and that is somewhere making a difference. I try to be so purpose driven that any thing that is not in line with my purpose, just falls be the way side.

8.  What advice would you offer to others who are searching for their purpose or are afraid to take the first step towards their dreams?
Step out on nothing and land on something.

9.  Name someone who has inspired you and why.
Malaak Compton-Rock, she is the ultimate humanitarian and the founder director of the Angelrock Project. Her enthusiasm, drive, and her passion to inspire the world to take part in social responsibility and service moves me, and is a constant reminder that I AM where I am supposed to be.

10.  How can people connect with you?
You can connect with me on Twitter @fabdogooder and my blog http://www.thefabulousdogooder.com/ and you can learn more about my organization at http://www.thesheismeprogram.org/.
 
A former beauty queen turned social entrepreneur, Bessie A. Winn-Afeku is on a purpose driven mission to educate, inspire, and empower. With an extensive background in beauty and pageantry, Bessie was also contestant in the 2003 Miss Georgia USA pageant and a finalist in the Today's Black Women Magazine Beauty Competition. This former Miss Black Georgia USA has truly breathed life into the clichéd beauty pageant phrase, "Make the World a Better Place."A native of Ghana West Africa, Winn-Afeku moved to Georgia at the age of seven years old. Bessie Winn-Afeku is a poised and coveted speaker and Founder and Director of The She is Me Program™ which is a non-profit organization that aims to empower young women and ensure high school graduation through workshops, the arts, and exposing them to various careers,and positive role models while developing college readiness. Winn-Afeku is the Creator and Editor of The Fabulous Do Gooder, site that chronicles fabulous giving and fabulous living. Bessie has been featured in ESSENCE magazine, EBONY magazine, was recognized as Atlanta's 2010 Power 30 Under 30 in the area of Non-Profit work and community service, and is listed in the 2010 edition of Who's Who in Black Atlanta. Bessie A. Winn-Afeku is a graduate of Georgia State University, where she earned her B.A. in Political Science with a minor in Sociology.

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Monday, February 21, 2011

5 Ways to Outwardly Showcase Your Inner Pretty

Your inner pretty is about the beauty of your personality, your strength, your character, and all your other inner traits. But there are ways to showcase that inner pretty on the outside so that other people can see it and feel it: 



Smile.
Few things are as contagious as a genuine, welcoming smile. Smiling is an outward representation of your inner joy. Why not share that joy with others?

Look a stranger in the eye and greet them.
Often we’re so busy checking off our personal “to-do” lists that we burrow through the day with our heads buried and our shoulders braced against potential opposing forces. Just once during your day: look up, catch someone’s eye and say hello. 

Send a hand-written note or card to someone you care about.
In this digital age--where almost everyone you know and/or care about is accessible with a quick click of your mouse or press of a button on your smart phone--handwritten notes have fallen largely by the wayside. It is for this very reason that an artfully penned letter or card to someone you care about will go such a long way. It lets them know that you don’t mind taking a few extra moments out of your day to express how much you miss them and/or love them. 

Volunteer for a cause from which you will not benefit directly.
Instead of volunteering at your child’s school, work with an after-school program for at-risk youth; or run for a cause that has not adversely affected anyone that you know.  By being of service in a capacity that neither you nor anyone you care about benefits from directly, you can better feel the effects of the service itself. 

Commit a random act of kindness.
Last week, my co-worker brought in a candle in the shape of a pink and white cupcake for me because she knows I love pink. She was in Target, thought of me when she saw it, and bought it--just like that. That adorable little trinket makes me smile every time I look over at it—not because of WHAT it is, but because of the thought behind it. What random act of kindness can you commit that will brighten someone else’s day? 

What are some other ways you show off your inner pretty? Chime in!
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Friday, February 18, 2011

Love Notes - Friday 2/18/2011

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Thursday, February 17, 2011

AT YOUR BEST ~ GG

We want to feature you AT YOUR BEST! Send in your photos capturing a moment in your life when you were AT YOUR BEST, meaning you felt beautiful inside and out and life was good. 

When things aren't so great, these are the moments we can recall to boost our spirits. By sharing these moments with each other, we can all be reminded that love is what really makes us feel beautiful.



GG and Vonnie at friend's summer wedding

Tell us why you felt at your best in this moment:
I always feel untouchable when I'm with my friends. I've been blessed with amazing women in my life who support me and love me unconditionally. We've been told that when we get around each other, there seems to be a "force field" of positive energy that surrounds us. (ha! sounds kind of crazy, but I'll take it) Me and this lovely lady have been BFFs since the 4th grade. Friendship like ours is rare. When I see myself through her eyes, I feel beautiful.

How do you define beauty:
Beauty is self-love, humility, confidence and grace. Beauty comes from a mindful awareness of your worth.

How do you define happiness:
Happiness is having nothing to prove, relinquishing the need to control everything and realizing that joy comes from within.

Your turn! Send your pics in to PeaceLovePrettyThings@gmail.com and tell us why you felt happy and beautiful and at your best in that moment.  Feel free to share your favorite quotes about happiness and beauty and we'll include them with your feature.  Please put AT YOUR BEST in the subject line.

I don't believe makeup and the right hairstyle alone can make a woman beautiful.  The most radiant woman in the room is the one full of life and experience.   - Sharon Stone
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