Monday, August 17, 2009

Me Me Me

It can seem like a difficult pill to swallow sometimes, but there's really no one on earth who can make us happy. We get trapped into thinking "If he would only..." Or "Why doesn't she?..." but the truth is, even if they did all the things we wanted them to, we could still be unhappy. No matter how hard they try to please us, people are always going to inevitably disappoint us--not intentionally, but simply because they are human and because they are an external by-product of our happy. Happiness, peace, positivity--all these states of being start on the inside and, as our attitude reflects them, they manifest outwardly in our lives. So we have to learn to be happy even when the people we thought would make us happy, end up falling short.

And it is equally important to learn to self-sooth when people inevitably do disappoint us. We have to find our "happy place" inside ourselves and spend a little "me time"--doing the little things that bring us pleasure and move our focus from outward to inward. It can be anything from reading a good book, to watching a repeat of a favorite show, to taking a hot shower, painting our nails, a quick yoga session in the living room or just sitting in silence. But whatever it is, we have to be the ones to bring comfort to ourselves. We have to take on the hefty charge of being solely responsible for our own happiness. It's just too big of a job for anyone else to handle.

"Happy and unhappy belong to your mind, not to the world."

4 comments:

GG said...

I got caught up in my feelings this weekend...brooding because of this and that.
This is RIGHT ON TIME for me chica...really helps me put things in perspective. :)

Peace Love and Pretty Things said...

I'm glad I could meet you where you are today GG. Feel better!

Joy Winner-or-Whiner said...

On the flip side people get offended to easily. Focusing on your state of happiness prevents people from stealing your joy.

Peace Love and Pretty Things said...

I definitely have always been a person who gets offended easily. I was always feeling like someone looked at me funny or spoke to me like this or that and I walked around with hurt feelings all the time. Booooo to that. I agree with your statement: "Focusing on your state of happiness prevents people from stealing your joy." Nowadays, my happy belongs to me and no one else.

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